There is a fact that parents should know related to sex education, especially there is lots of news about child molestation, and the fact is reluctance to talk about sex education in our society. Moreover if the children get sexual abused and they don’t talk about it because of the values in the family which is talking about sex is a taboo. No wonder kids finally try to find more information from many different sources, like friends, magazine and internet.
Sexual abused?
Some of the child sexual abuse types are fondling, inappropriate touching, and pornography, to full force intercourse with sadistic acts. The average age of the victims is 9 years old even though there are some cases that the victims are 2 month year old babies. Based on surveys, most kid sexual assaults are committed by somebody the victim recognizes for example like a father, a sibling, a family friend, a neighbor, a teacher, and another relative.
One of the best ways
To have a good relationship between parents and children is one of the best ways to solve this problem. As you know that an open and comfortable interaction between parents and kids is a doorway to get you to a higher level of getting inside into their own world. You need to understand them first before to make them listen to you and therefore you need to have a good and positive deposit to get this kind of relationships.
How to put positive deposit in them
Here are some tips to put some positive deposits to children in order to get an open and comfortable relationship with them.
1. Change your way of thinking about them
This is your first priority for you to do, believe it or not, you still believe about “my children have to do this!”, change that way of thinking become “I understand why my children do that things”, by the time you change your way of thinking into a win-win situation, it will give a different reaction to the children and of course the result.
2. Stop giving your first reaction
Most of our first reaction to our kids are not 100% right (especially for those people who never evaluate their old believes) I guess it is a better Idea if you stop giving your first reaction by trying to listen and learn about their way of thinking.
3. Start talking with their words NOT yours!
If you do the number two, you will get some important words that mentioned many times that your kids use, and that’s the media for you to give a positive deposit.
The indicator that you are having a better relationship with them is your kids start talking more about personal things to you, so congratulations then, you are on the track. The more “talking personal things” you have, the better relationship you will get, and this will help you to give better chance giving important information such as sex education, and at the end it will help you keep your children from sex abuse.
To get more details about giving positive deposit around sex education to children, teens, or even to your students at school (if you are a teacher), find out more here:
1.Talking to Your Kids About Sex: A Go Parents! Guide
2. Sex and relationships education for teachers: step by step guide
3. Let’s talk about sex : A guide for kids 9 to 12 and their parents
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Sexual abused?
Some of the child sexual abuse types are fondling, inappropriate touching, and pornography, to full force intercourse with sadistic acts. The average age of the victims is 9 years old even though there are some cases that the victims are 2 month year old babies. Based on surveys, most kid sexual assaults are committed by somebody the victim recognizes for example like a father, a sibling, a family friend, a neighbor, a teacher, and another relative.
One of the best ways
To have a good relationship between parents and children is one of the best ways to solve this problem. As you know that an open and comfortable interaction between parents and kids is a doorway to get you to a higher level of getting inside into their own world. You need to understand them first before to make them listen to you and therefore you need to have a good and positive deposit to get this kind of relationships.
How to put positive deposit in them
Here are some tips to put some positive deposits to children in order to get an open and comfortable relationship with them.
1. Change your way of thinking about them
This is your first priority for you to do, believe it or not, you still believe about “my children have to do this!”, change that way of thinking become “I understand why my children do that things”, by the time you change your way of thinking into a win-win situation, it will give a different reaction to the children and of course the result.
2. Stop giving your first reaction
Most of our first reaction to our kids are not 100% right (especially for those people who never evaluate their old believes) I guess it is a better Idea if you stop giving your first reaction by trying to listen and learn about their way of thinking.
3. Start talking with their words NOT yours!
If you do the number two, you will get some important words that mentioned many times that your kids use, and that’s the media for you to give a positive deposit.
The indicator that you are having a better relationship with them is your kids start talking more about personal things to you, so congratulations then, you are on the track. The more “talking personal things” you have, the better relationship you will get, and this will help you to give better chance giving important information such as sex education, and at the end it will help you keep your children from sex abuse.
To get more details about giving positive deposit around sex education to children, teens, or even to your students at school (if you are a teacher), find out more here:
1.Talking to Your Kids About Sex: A Go Parents! Guide
2. Sex and relationships education for teachers: step by step guide
3. Let’s talk about sex : A guide for kids 9 to 12 and their parents
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